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Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by alialoggi

alialoggi — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:06:28 +0000

This is how she sees it. He is not attracted to me. He tells me he doesn’t like overweight women. I am over weight and he doesn’t want to have sex with me. She is unhappy about this and probably eats to feel better. No woman wants to feel that she is a place to deposit sperm and thats what you’ve created. She doesn’t need to feel closer to God, she needs to feel closer to you. What you can do is to work out together, eat well together, its a life change that you both should do. Its not about portion control, its about choosing foods that a good for you, so that you don’t have to worry about watching the quantity of what you eat, you look for the quality. I enjoy searching and cooking healthy recipes because they taste better than unhealthy foods. I love the different spices. I think you could cook together, have a glass of wine while you do, and enjoy each other’s company. I think you could take walks together, and hold hands again. You can take salsa dancing lessons and hold each other again, and then you can take kick boxing classes together. Laugh at your mistakes in class, I do. Your way isn’t working dude, find something that does. Its not you trying to correct her problems its you re-connecting in a healthy way. My husband did this to me, and we never reconnected. I weighed 110 lbs when he would hide candy so I wouldn’t eat it. When I had my child, he threw cookies away, saying, “I don’t want a fat wife.” I am in great shape, I work out for me, and he had an affair and filed for divorce. I don’t miss him. Don’t make the same mistake.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by Crystal

Crystal — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:42:29 +0000

Active leaders inspire active followers. It may sound silly but you have to lead her in a more positive way. You are responsible for your own happiness, but you can inspire happiness and motivation in others by leading by example.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by Memory

Memory — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:41:08 +0000

If she isn’t trying hard enough, perhaps she is comfortable with the extra weight. If she isn’t into looks then she doesn’t mind being heavy. I imagine you are not over weight?
You have decided to stay married and be faithful, because of your beliefs. That’s good, the problem is you are married to her and she to you.
Both should make efforts to improve the marriage if something is wrong. Her by initiating sex more often, and you by looking past her weight.
I think it’s hard for her to make the first moves, if she thinks you don’t like her. Don’t make her feel awkward about her weight. Talk to her and assure her you have no problem with her coming on to you.
Perhaps she feels you don’t want her. If that’s the case things aren’t going to improve until she thinks differently.
I think you’re lying to yourself when you say the problem isn’t with you, and that you are content. The problem is also with you, because you are married to her, and you dislike her being over weight. If you were truly content. You wouldn’t have, oh my wife is over weight and I am not attracted to her problem. You are willing to settle for what life put in your path, like it or not. That is different from being content.
I know because I have also settled. But want different from what I have.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by Wheelz

Wheelz — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 16:44:18 +0000

How you see your wife is a reflection of how she sees herself. The less affection to show her, the more depressed she will get. The more you find her unattractive (and she will pick up on that) the less she will care about herself. You sound like a good man, so don’t throw a book at her and expect her to get the hint: you’re preaching about gluttony and that’s just hitting below the belt. Find time to take her for long walks, maybe get some exercise videos to do together, and above all compliment her on how well she is doing and how great she looks from her efforts. Her mindset and yours will change during this process. Not only will you be happier, but she will too and will eventually continue losing weight as both of you will feel better and her self esteem will boost.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by justme

justme — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 08:47:19 +0000

I think you need to have a good old talk with her. If she does not care about herself & love herself why would anyone else want to. Weight is a problem for many people, if it is affecting her health then she needs to take better care of herself.

Comment on Workout & Worship by Gary Kudej

Gary Kudej — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:26:37 +0000

Awesome post over again! Thanks!

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by mem11363

mem11363 — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 01:44:26 +0000

First of all you are a great husband. And you are showing a high commitment level.

I had this exact conversation with my wife BEFORE we married because my parents and most of their friends had the same pattern: The wives stayed fit until marriage and then felt entitled to gain as much weight as they wanted. I told my wife I find fat women sexually unattractive and wanted us to BOTH commit to staying fit. And we both have.

I am going to say something that I believe is totally true. If you limit your meals to healthy food you will not over eat and you will lose weight. So your wife needs to “give up” the foods that she over eats and NOT BUY them. And to be supportive you need to agree that any food that she has trouble with – you will not bring into the house.

The saddest thing about obesity in the US is that it has become totally common and totally acceptable.

When we married my wife weighed 105 pounds (5’2″) now 20 years later and 3 children later she weighs 110. And sure it takes effort but we BOTH put effort into our marriage because we love each other. Your wife needs to decide if she loves twinkies more than intimacy with you.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by Shar B

Shar B — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 19:46:55 +0000

I admire your truthfulness and your commitment to your marriage. As a woman, I know that weight gain can greatly affect the sex life in marriage. Being overweight is a turn off for both men and women. I have gained about 30 lbs. since my marriage and it bothers me terribly. My husband is awesome and reminds me that he married me for “thick and thin.” Ha! Ha! God bless him! I know that when I weigh less and fit nicely in my clothes I feel sexier and things are better in bed. I would encourage you to have your wife make an appointment to see her doctor for a physical. There may be physiological reasons for the weight gain and she could also be suffering with depression. Best to rule things out. If you can’t join her in exercising, could you buy her a membership in a gym, or offer to buy her a diet program for say, 6 months with Jenny Craig or something similar as a way to make up for your not being able to be there with her? She does have to take responsibility for her body, it is true, but can be harder than you think. Try my suggestion, and make sure your wife knows you love her with all your heart, through thick and thin.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by doobiestreet

doobiestreet — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:07:32 +0000

My guess is that she was not as bothered by her weight until YOU started harping on it. She is who she is. When u love someone for the person they are (not what they look like) then they become the most attractive & beautiful person in the world to you no matter how they are perceived by the rest of the world.

When u try to force someone to change they resist, it’s human nature. Does she know she is over weight? Yes she does. Does she want you pointing it out to her? Certainly not.

Comment on How can I be a good Christian husband if I am not attracted to my overweight wife? by Binst

Binst — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 16:44:55 +0000

Tell her to do more christian workouts?